http://www.cocomment.com/comments/rbcarter Copyright 2007 coComment.com 2009-11-25T06:38:42.649+01:00 http://www.cocomment.com/images/logo4rss.gif http://www.cocomment.com/sidebar?object=people&context=explore&mode=detail&id=rbcarter&conv=2525518&comment_id=108596518 wintergreen Chuck, I wasn't commenting on the content of her insult; I know it doesn't matter if you are good at guitar or whatever. It's more about the fact that she insulted you in front of all her friends. Your status is purely a function of the woman you’re dating and your personality and looks so far during the house party. These things are all more or less fixed; are you saying that nothing at that party can affect your status? Or nothing she says? Or maybe we're talking about two separate things. I'm talking about status within the group, which doesn't have much to do with say what your job is. I see status within a group as a fluid situation that can change easily and frequently. Most human interactions (between friends of bf/gf) are full of intricate maneuvers to maintain near-equal status. Throwing out an insult is a good way to disrupt that balance. Unless you're so alpha or high-status that insulting you is viewed by everyone as a major social blunder. Like meeting the president and insulting him or saying something inappropriate in front of him. It doesn't seem to me that the guy in this example has that level of status relative to the group, probably somewhere in between--the girls laugh, but the guys in the circle get nervous and look at you for cues on how to react (a sign that he has high status in this situation). If he has a witty comeback and everyone laughs at her..well his status goes up relative to hers as he restores the balance, and he gets an added boost for diffusing the social tension (a skill which women do find attractive). 2009-06-18T08:16:18.218+02:00 2009-06-18T08:16:18.218+02:00 http://www.cocomment.com/sidebar?object=people&context=explore&mode=detail&id=rbcarter&conv=2525518&comment_id=108580887 wintergreen He sucks at playing guitar! Up until then you could just laugh the comment off, but when she says you suck, you have to do something. As soon as she says this, your status drops relative to everyone in the circle, especially her. I would go for #4 to get her friends all laughing at her. This simultaneously lowers her status and raises yours (because you're funny and witty now). I think #1 sucks because it lowers your status and you're showing that you're just going to sit there and take it like a clown. If I couldn't think of a witty rejoinder, then I walk away and start gaming another cutie at the party. Later on when we're alone I grab her arm, stare into her eyes, and tell her don't ever insult me like that again or you're done. 2009-06-18T07:02:08.729+02:00 2009-06-18T07:02:08.729+02:00 http://www.cocomment.com/sidebar?object=people&context=explore&mode=detail&id=rbcarter&conv=2395776&comment_id=56378791 Robert Carter If you change your permalink structure now, you'll have to 301 all the old permalinks to the new ones via the .htaccess file. Probably more trouble than it's worth, unless there's a plugin that does this automatically. Also, you should use the Optimal Title plugin so that the post title appears before the blog name in the Title tag. 2009-02-07T18:22:29.197+01:00 2009-02-07T18:22:29.197+01:00 http://www.cocomment.com/sidebar?object=people&context=explore&mode=detail&id=rbcarter&conv=2361011&comment_id=54137577 Bob Carter One alternative to building a website from scratch is to buy an existing website that is already generating money from affiliate programs or AdSense. 2009-01-28T19:21:37.416+01:00 2009-01-28T19:21:37.416+01:00 http://www.cocomment.com/sidebar?object=people&context=explore&mode=detail&id=rbcarter&conv=1192779&comment_id=23296126 Robert Carter I couldn't live without RTM! 2008-01-18T23:30:51.533+01:00 2008-01-18T23:30:51.533+01:00 http://www.cocomment.com/sidebar?object=people&context=explore&mode=detail&id=rbcarter&conv=1193880&comment_id=23285750 Robert Carter I lasted about 2 hours...I don't think it's possible without unplugging my computer! 2008-01-18T18:16:15.101+01:00 2008-01-18T18:16:15.101+01:00